When connecting with any spiritual guidance we should combine strong intentions and openness. We become childlike vessels allowing knowledge and instruction to flow through us. By staying humble and receptive we can strengthen a genetic bond that goes as deep as our soul’s time on earth. Dedicate careful time and energy to construct a space for your ancestors in your heart and in your home.
By creating an ancestor altar we provide a sacred and safe environment for their spirit to connect with us. This is a place we can put up pictures, mementos, memoirs, food, and libations. When we provide the ancestors with a space to reside on this earthly plain, we communicate to them this is the place they are remembered and celebrated. Here we sit with them and allow their messages to come through. Connection is established over time. In this sacred space, we form lifelong contacts that help guide and heal us when assistance is needed the most. In exchange, we share our healing experiences with them and give reverence to their memory keeping them strong allies.
We should set up specific boundaries and intentions around our ancestral relationships, as certain relations, we want to keep distant. We can honor the memory of all our ancestors without interacting with the problematic ones at all. Just like we wouldn’t accept a call from crazy uncle Carl while he was living, we should block that line of communication now that he has passed as well. The point is you can still honor his memory (if you feel like it) from a distance. Keep your peace above everything else. This should be a helpful and healing relationship that brings you joy.
In some cases, our ancestors are just looking for us to send back their energy, so they can move on to the next plane of existence. This is totally acceptable and should be explored. To overly simplify the process, we feel the energy related to them we are holding inside us, gather it up, send their suffering back to their feet, and integrate the lesson for intergenerational healing. This process of healing our ancestral lineage creates prosperity for all relations.